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VICTIM MENTALITY: 15 SIGNS OF VICTIMHOOD & HOW TO DEAL WITH IT

A victim mentality is something that can be really tricky to write about. Before I get going on this subject and share some things about me and my life that I haven’t shared before, I want to first make one thing very clear: This post is in no way, shape, or form victim-shaming or victim-blaming. I think it’s crucial (as far as the healing process goes) to acknowledge that you are a victim if you have truly been victimized,...

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Synchronizing Neo4j causal cluster bookmarks

Neo4j cluster is available in the Neo4j enterprise version and of course in Neo4j Aura. A cluster provides causal consistency via the concept of bookmarks: On executing a transaction, the client can ask for a bookmark which it then presents as a parameter to subsequent transactions. Using that bookmark the cluster can ensure that only servers which have processed the client’s bookmarked transaction will run its next transaction....

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Exact Instructions vs. Social Competence

An amusing video from a few years back has been making the rounds lately. Dad challenges the kids to write exact instructions to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, and Dad follows those instructions. The kids find the experience difficult and frustrating, because Dad interprets the “exact” instructions exactly—but differently from the way the kids intended. I’ll be here when you get back. Go ahead and watch it. Welcome...

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What if Metallica went into Java programming?

Yesterday, Maciej shared this and I answered Disposable. — Michael Simons (@rotnroll666) May 26, 2021 after that, things escalated a bit… While I thought, if Metallica would have been Spring developers, they would have written about Disposable Beans, not Heroes, other people have been more creative: From Gerald came songs about memory leaks or the lack thereof: Creeping Death (Memory Leak) or The Memory Remains (no Memory...

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Unlimited Charges

I noticed something interesting while reviewing my credit card bills a couple of evenings ago: monthly charges for $9.99 from “Amazon Downloads”, going back several months. I buy a lot of e-books. I looked for receipts from Amazon in email. I found a bunch, but none from Amazon for $9.99. I never delete email receipts; I put all of them into a separate folder so that I can collate them and have the relevant ones as records of...