Real Jewish Brides: Jos on her original wedding date

Jos will be marrying Daniel on 1st November 2020 at Hackney Town Hall, London, UK. Click here to read all Jos’ planning posts to date.

THREE FACTS: (1) Before meeting Daniel, Jos was known for her torrid dating tales – so much so that her friends used to call her Bridget Jonestein! (2) Daniel proposed to Jos in the Greek island of Naxos! (3) Jos is a member of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club!

In another life, the 27th June 2020 would have played out very differently. The plan had been crafted months ago. Firstly, me, my bridesmaids, my mum, aunt, sisters in law, cousins, and grandma would decamp to one of my favourite London haunts: Pivonie Nail spa in Belsize village. Having been a regular there since they opened, myself and my girls Aya and Lily (they’re the best) had already decided that Fairy Tailor by Essie would be the colour of my wedding nails.

I had pretty much intended on booking it out so that every female I hold dear could be pampered before our wedding. In the evening, I’d asked for as many of my bridesmaids as we’re comfortable to come and hang out at my parents, my bestie Taylor and I already decided which side of the double bed on the top floor of my parent’s house we’d be sleeping on the night before I got married. I’m fairly sure I requested a movie to watch, probably something like Pitch Perfect, nothing wedding themed to be honest.

In reality, the 27th June 2020 started in my parents cottage in Milford-on-sea, after 3 and a half months without my girls at Pivonie, my nails were less than on point. We had driven down a few days earlier to get away from the four walls of our flat that we’d been staring at since March, willing the time to go and the situation the world was in to end. It was a relief that the heatwave had broken, and we got up early, running around the house tidying up. We were in a rush, we had two house viewings to get to in London and the agent was clear he didn’t have very much time.

Whilst we left in good time, Daniel took a wrong turn, and I watched, anxious, as the google maps time of arrival predicted us to be 10 minutes late.  We’d been looking at houses since the property market had reopened in May. The timing lined up nicely with my youngest brother and sister in law looking to buy, and deciding they wanted to buy me out of the flat we jointly own. Before Covid, Daniel had been resistant to looking for houses until after the wedding. But as reality set in and the wedding got postponed, looking for a house became both a nice distraction and frankly got us out the flat!

As it turned out, our tardiness didn’t matter, because on the 27th June 2020, we found a house that we loved, on the 30th June 2020 we had our offer accepted, and on the 6th August 2020, we exchanged, after a process that the estate agent described as ‘unusually straightforward’. The timings just lined up. We would never have found our house if we got married. It just wouldn’t have happened. This alongside several other happy coincidences over the last few months has brought me a huge amount of solace. 

As you can imagine, the 28th June 2020 also started very differently. Instead of waking up and having breakfast with my girls before Camilla Collins started her magic to make me look like the Bride. I woke up next to my still fiancé. We had a ‘champagne breakfast’ on the grass outside our friend’s flat, and headed to my parents for lunch.  We were greeted with nothing but love. Our families had got together and made a huge effort to show us how much they cared about us, presenting us with gifts, cooking our favourite food and allowing us to just let go and be looked after.

It was a very special day, albeit not the day we planned for at all. At 3.30pm the exact time I had been scheduled to get out of my car at the venue, the heavens opened. Not a drop of rain or even a small shower, but the lashings of rain that is only possible after a heatwave in the UK.  In another life I’d have been very stressed about getting soaked on my wedding day.

And the icing on the cake. The very best part of a special but poignant day. On the 28th June 2020 at 9.50pm rather than being on the dance floor, and helping me navigate my dress, my best friend Claire gave birth to baby Ilan Charlie. That day is no longer our wedding day but my ‘fake nephew’s’ birthday. That day will now always be a celebration. 

Amongst the excitement of moving and building our new home together there is of course a pang of sadness. Yesterday we bit the bullet and postponed our wedding again. This time, to March 2021. We have no idea what will be possible on that date. I look back at how clueless we all were in January about what was to hit and feel sorry for past us! 2020 was meant to be our year to walk down the aisle. I look back at the photos of when I found my dress material and feel a bit sad. I have lost all the excitement for wedding planning, as the thought of having to postpone again or even cancel is too possible after the past 8 months.

However, everything has shown us that this situation has worked out for the best for us. Every arrow has pointed at us being on the right path, moving into our dream house only a few weeks away. So, I go back to the lesson that this pandemic has constantly taught me. Whilst, this situation is hard for a control freak like me, there is only one thing left to do. I have to close my eyes, take a deep breath and hope the universe catches me. So far, this strategy has worked for me.  

 


Click here to read all Jos’ planning posts to date.


Jos & Daniel’s Wedding Vendors booked so far:

Venue – Hackney Town Hall
Videographer – Dreamcatchers {offers 10% discount to all members of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club}
Honeymoon – Abby Taubman of Colletts Travel {offers a travel guide to the chosen destination to all members of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club}
Hair and Make up – Camilla J Collins {offers 10% discount to all members of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club}
Events agency – WORK HARD / PLAY HARD
Flowers – Alice Vine
Singer – Katie Plus Juan
Caterer – Black Pot
Cake – Belsize Cake
Photographer – Rachel Takes Pictures
Band – Stylus Live
Stationery – Hart Creative Studio
Grooms suit – Drake’s


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