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Using Gratitude to Grow Your Social Network

Friends, colleagues and casual acquaintances: lend me your ears! Would you like to have a more vibrant social network? Yes, I’m talking about actual people you can hang out with in person on a regular basis, who share your interests at work or at play. Did you know that expressing gratitude is a great way to strengthen all your relationships? It’s easy to do. Let me explain. I’ve found that once I started to send out thank you...

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We Speak Human: The Friendship Fine Print

By now, you’ve more than likely read enough of our blogs, blurbs, and what have yous to know that we like to give names to our less-than-attractive traits. From “mean martyrf*&cker”, to “sweet and sour chicken”, to “squeaker-of-the-house”, clearly, I have befriended, named, and leashed (for the most part!) some of my most ghastly traits. This week’s subject matter is particularly near and dear to my (occasionally...

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This Is the Difference between the Life You Have and the Life You Want

A while ago, I wrote a post about dreaming your life away. It was written from experience because I did that for many years. I had a life, but it was not the life I wanted. I worked in a job I hated, drank too much, and was so full of anxiety it led to panic attacks. I was depressed and didn’t realize how bad my depression had become because I was so used to it. I was used to living with being miserable. Depression and anxiety were...

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My #1 Predictor of Success. Hint: It’s Green

The biggest linchpin? Observing someone who had what I wanted…who had all the accomplishments I dreamed of (if I let myself), plus seemed to be enjoying them! Ok, I’ll admit it: I was jealous. I’ve learned that being jealous of how someone else is (that I’m not) or what they have (that I don’t) just points to the delta between what I want and what I am currently doing about it (most likely, not much). So, instead of pouting...

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3 Painful Emotions That Might Be Trying to Tell You Something

Most people use one of two strategies to cope with painful emotions: Fix it. The minute you start feeling anxious, for example, your negative and judgmental self-talk kicks in and you start arguing with yourself about why you shouldn’t feel anxious. And how if you were a little tougher you wouldn’t be stressed out all the time. As if berating yourself for feeling bad would help you feel better… Run away. Of course, it’s...